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The Better Part of Happiness Exploring the Four Purposes of Life
The journey may indeed matter more than the destination-but without a destination to aim for there is no journey; we can only wander. |
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With the pace of life accelerating, in a world of change, it's not easy to maintain our balance and sense of direction. Yet we strive to do so, because a sense of direction, toward a meaningful goal, may be the better part of happiness. In this pursuit, the journey may indeed matter more than the destination-but without a destination to aim for there is no journey; we can only wander. We humans are goal seekers from infancy, drawn by the objects of our desire. But somewhere along the way, most often in the dilemmas and angst of adolescence, a sense of confusion obscures the simple desires of childhood. What we want is muddied by expectations about what we (or others) think we should do. We begin to doubt our desires, mistrust our motives, and wonder where we're going and why. In my first book, Way of the Peaceful Warrior, the old service station mechanic I called Socrates suggested that all seeking-for knowledge or achievement, for power or pleasure, for love or wealth or even spiritual experience-is driven by the promise of happiness. But the search only reinforces the sense of dilemma that sent us seeking in the first place. So he advised me to replace the search for future happiness with the practice of "unreasonable happiness" in each arising moment. When my seeking ended and the practice began, I came to understand that what we all need, even more than a happy feeling, is a clear purpose-a meaningful goal or mission that connects us with other human beings. As Viktor Frankl wrote in his book Man's Search for Meaning, this fundamental need for purpose and direction may be as important to our psychological growth as eating is to our biological survival. But the duties of our daily lives leave little time to contemplate life's larger questions, except on rare occasions, in the silent hours or in times of transition or trauma, when we are compelled to ask: What do I really want? How would I know if I had it? What would happen if I got it? Is getting what I want going to take me to where I want to be? And finally, What is the purpose of my life? Maybe you've wondered why you're here on Earth or what you're here to do-what the French call your raison d'être, your reason for being, an organizing principle and sense of direction that gives shape and meaning to your life. History provides numerous examples of iconic figures like Joan of Arc, Mohandas Gandhi, Nelson Mandela, and the Dalai Lama, whose clarity of purpose drew others to their missions like moths to the light. My new book, The Four Purposes of Life, proposes some fundamental "reasons for being." It contains elements from my previous works, presenting them in their full context for the first time. The book was inspired by my own quest for a purpose in life. I once believed that my purpose was all about work, and I searched through my twenties and well into my thirties for a career and calling. It took another decade of exploration and introspection before I understood that career is only one of four primary purposes in life. But why four purposes? Some might argue that our sole (or soul) purpose is learning to love-that whatever the question, love is the answer-or that spiritual awakening or surrender to God is our ultimate aim. Others point out that our primary biological purpose is family-bonding with a mate, and bearing and caring for children. Still others might propose three or five or more purposes, or even suggest that there are as many purposes as there are people. Yet just as we divide all the days of the year into four seasons, and points on a compass into four primary directions, sorting our experience into four fundamental purposes helps us to create a sense of structure to better organize our lives. These four purposes also prepare us for, and point toward, the ultimate or transcendental awakening promised by all the great spiritual traditions. The first of the four purposes-learning life's lesson- centers around the premise that Earth is a school and daily life is our classroom, and that our daily challenges (in the core arenas of relationship, work and finances, and health) bring learning, growth, and perspective. The value of our life experience resides in what we learn in the process. Difficult days may provide the most important lessons, helping us develop the awareness and self-reflection that lead to higher wisdom. The second purpose-finding your career and calling -underscores the critical importance of self-knowledge, as well as integrating both logic and intuition, in making the wisest possible life decisions. The service you provide in the world can become a meaningful path of personal and spiritual growth. The third purpose-discovering your life path-addresses a hidden calling you're here to explore, a personal path that for most people remains obscure. Discovering this third purpose sheds light on the strengths you possess and challenges you face, highlighting a deeper mission you're here to fulfill. The fourth purpose-attending to this arising moment-brings the first three into sharp focus and down to earth, enabling you to integrate all the others with awareness and grace, here and now. Discovering these four purposes is beneficial for anyone seeking deeper insight into themselves and their lives, but especially for those at a crossroads, facing a challenge or change, when "business as usual" no longer applies. I invite you to explore the four key purposes that can provide meaning and direction in your life, and in a changing world. Excerpted with permission from the book, The Four Purposes of Life © 2011 by Dan Millman, published by New World Library, Novato, CA. Available in stores or visit www.newworldlibrary.com Read The Share Guide's interview with Dan Millman at : www.shareguide.com Related Info: Connect With Nature: Regain Your Balance in the Modern World Discover the Magic of Transforming Your Mind Being the Change We Seek On The Road To Enlightenment What is Intuitive Healing Dreams & Meditation: Your Freeway to Enlightenment Natural Weight Loss Program recommended by The Share Guide: learn more MORE
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